Recently, I came across a quote by Jessica Seinfeld that made me take a hard, honest look at myself.
Wow. How many times have I been guilty of this one? My first reaction was to rationalize it by thinking “I’m a blogger…my business is my phone, and social media!” But the reality is that I was a phone addict long before I started blogging. Over the years, my phone has become a sort of “social armor” that I hide behind in situations when I’m bored, feeling uncomfortable, or just don’t know what else I should be doing! Dull moment in a restaurant? Time to check Facebook! Stuck on documentation at work? Time to scroll through my Instagram feed! When I get together with friends or coworkers, I’m often scrolling through my phone to show them the latest pictures of Bella…all without considering how rude it comes across. 😔
My phone has replaced so many things that made me, me! I have always loved reading, and I would look forward to going to the library and returning home with a stack of 5-10 new books to read. Payday Friday always came with the added treat of a trip to Barnes & Noble for a new Philippa Gregory book. Now, I just download every book through iBooks. There is nothing inherently wrong with that, but it’s amazing how quickly my phone replaced longstanding traditions in my life, all without me noticing! The same can be said about my phone camera. I was on vacation recently, and looking back, I realize I spent the entire trip with my phone raised, taking photos. Again, nothing wrong with this, but I’m realizing that I spend more time curating moments than actually living them.
So Socialites, I’ve decided that I’m going to take back some of my power that I’ve lost through my phone. I’m going to make a conscious effort to keep my phone facing down when I’m out with others. I’m going to fill awkward silences with caring conversation, and encourage others to do the same. I’m going to join my daughter in all of her adorable moments, instead of just racing to film them. I’m going to stretch my brain and commit important phone numbers to memory again, rather than adding them to my contacts (if I could remember them at 12, I can do it at 34…I’m just sayin!) I’m going back to the library and checking out books again, and I’m going to be the example for my daughter that there is more to life than the phone!
I know that the phone is an important part of our lives, and I hope I haven’t stepped on anyone’s toes, because I am just taking inventory of things that I need to do for me. But I invite you to join me in this #breakupwithmyphone moment! Let’s make #phonefacedown a thing! Leave me a comment below. 👇🏾
See ya next time!