Recently, I came across a quote by Jessica Seinfeld that made me take a hard, honest look at myself (and my phone addiction!)
Wow. How many times have I been guilty of this one? My first reaction was to rationalize it by thinking “I’m a blogger…my business is my phone, and social media!” But the reality is that I had a phone addiction long before I started blogging. Over the years, my phone has become a sort of social armor that I hide behind in situations when I’m bored, feeling uncomfortable, or just don’t know what else I should be doing! Dull moment in a restaurant? Time to check Facebook! Stuck on documentation at work? Time to scroll through my Instagram feed! When I get together with friends or coworkers, I’m often scrolling through my phone to show them the latest pictures of Bella…all without considering how rude it comes across. 😔
It Snuck Up On Me…
My phone has replaced so many things that made me, me! I have always loved reading, and I would look forward to going to the library and returning home with a stack of 5-10 new books to read. Payday Friday always came with the added treat of a trip to Barnes & Noble to purchase the latest suspense thriller. Now, I just download every book through iBooks. There is nothing inherently wrong with that, but it’s amazing how quickly my phone replaced longstanding traditions in my life, all without my noticing! The same can be said about my phone camera. I was on vacation recently, and looking back, I realize I spent the entire trip with my phone raised, taking photos. Again, nothing wrong with this, but I’m realizing that I spend more time curating moments than actually living them.
So Socialites, I’ve decided that I’m going to take back some of my power that I’ve lost through my phone. I’m going to fill awkward silences with caring conversation, and encourage others to do the same. I’m going to join my daughter in all of her adorable moments, instead of just racing to film them. I’m going to be the example for my daughter that there is more to life than the phone! Care to join me? I’m sharing 4 of the methods I’m using to break my phone addiction!
Breaking The Addiction
1. Phone Face Down
This is the simplest trick. If my phone is in my hands, my lap, or my pocket, I’m going to end up using it and scrolling through Instagram for an hour. They key is to keep your phone away from you, and facing down. Turning off your notifications also helps!
2. A Little Distance
This piggybacks off the 1st tip, but I find this one to be very effective. When I get home from work, I like to relax in my recliner and veg out. If my phone is right next to me, it’s easy for me to get stuck in this chair for hours. By putting my phone on the other side of the wrong, I would have to keep getting up over and over to check it, and that gets tiresome quickly. Distance between yourself and your phone means that you won’t grab it unless absolutely needed!
3. Make One Meal A “No Phone Zone”Since I’m nice, I’m not even going to be hardcore and state that all meals have to be phone free. The point is to start small and work up. Choose 1 meal where no phone use is allowed. This could be breakfast, where you enjoy some unplugged time before work. It could be lunch, where you can actually disconnect from the cares of the workday. Or it could be dinner, where you can pay full undivided attention to your friends or family.
4. Ditch The Phone An Hour Before Bed
We’ve all read this one. Apparently, the blue light of your phone disrupts circadian rhythms and diminishes the quality of your sleep. This is the hardest for me because I love to scroll through IG and Facebook while I’m lying in bed, but it’s not healthy to fall asleep in the middle of using your phone. Not only can you clunk yourself in the head or eye (it’s happened to me many a time!), but your phone can overheat or overcharge. It’s better to put down the phone an hour before bed, and drift off slowly!
I know that the phone is an important part of our lives, and I hope I haven’t stepped on anyone’s toes, because I am just taking inventory of things that I need to do for me to overcome my phone addiction. But I invite you to join me in this #breakupwithmyphone moment! Let’s make #phonefacedown a thing! Leave me a comment below. 👇🏾
See ya next time!